Tips on how to move forward in life

1. Creating Vague Goals
When you don’t know where you are going, it is really hard to get there. Many
people set themselves up for failure when they set goals that are unclear. “I
want to lose weight” sounds like a great goal but the people who set this kind
of goal will never reach it. It is not because the people are not motivated or
disciplined but because the goal is too general. Do you want to lose 5 lbs or 50
Quick Fix: Set SMART goals by being Specific, making sure they are
Measurable, Achievable and Realistic, and last but not least — give yourself a
Time deadline.
2. Lacking a Higher Purpose
Goals can be set on any topic imaginable but if you don’t have a higher
purpose, it makes it is easy to give up once the initial motivation and
excitement wears off. Understanding how your goal is relevant to you allows
you to persevere even when the going gets tough.
Quick Fix: When setting your SMART goal, ask yourself how the goal is
relevant to your life and what you want to achieve.
3. Procrastinating
Even when you have SMART goals that are relevant to your purpose, if you
don’t get started, you’ll never achieve your goal. One of the most dangerous
phrases is “I’ll do it later.”
Quick Fix: Make sure the goal has been broken down into manageable pieces
and then start right away.
4. Not Taking Responsibility
Things will go wrong. That’s a fact of life. When something comes up and you
don’t achieve your goal, who do you blame? Your boss who kept you at work
late so you couldn’t work on your book or maybe the horrible weather that
stopped you from going to the gym. If it’s not your fault, there is nothing you
can do, right?
Quick Fix: Own up to not reaching your goals. When you take responsibility,
you’ll become resourceful knowing that you have control over the attainment
of your goals.
5. Listening to People Who Discourage You
When you go for your goals, especially the big ones that really count and fit in
with your purpose in life, it is inevitable that people will discourage you.
There are many reasons for this: concern, jealousy, ignorance, etc. How many
goals have already been given up on because other people decided they were
not worth pursuing?
Quick Fix: This one is easy. As long as you know the purpose for your goal,
ignore the naysayers. You can take what they are saying into consideration
but make sure you make the final choice.

6. Starting Too Many Projects

I’m a starter. That sounds like a good thing but not when you start too many
things, you don’t end up finishing many of them. This usually stems from the
fear of missing out (FOMO) or being someone who has many ideas.
Quick Fix: Understand that you have a limited amount of time and that you
can’t do everything. To deal with FOMO, realize that by not finishing, you are
missing out on all the opportunities that open up when you finish the projects
you are working on.
7. Being Negative
If you think you’re not going to make it, then you’re probably not going to
make it. If you don’t believe you’re going to reach your goal, then when you
fail, it is expected which makes it easy to stop trying. When you are optimistic
and a setback occurs, you focus your energy on finding solutions because you
truly believe there is one.
Quick Fix: Consider the idea that optimism and pessimism are both
expectations of the future. Each are equally likely to be true but which belief
will help you lead a happier more fulfilled life? Instead of wasting your energy
on complaining, spend that energy on learning.
8. Being Selfish
There are people out there that think it is silly to help others. They believe in
taking and not giving. They are misers with their time, money and knowledge
and are only interested in opportunities where they stand to benefit. Most big
goals require the help of others and it is very difficult to help people who only
care about taking.
Quick Fix: Serve others first. Always look for ways to add value to other
9. Surrounding Yourself with People Who Don’t Reach Their Goals
You are who you associate with. This may be hard to swallow for some people
and there are always exceptions to the rule but for the most part, we act in
accordance with the people around us. This comes from the strong ad natural
desire to belong and to be accepted (think of all the dumb things you did in
high school just to fit in).
Quick Fix: Associate with people who always reach their goals.
10. Watching Too Much TV
Not all TV is bad but if you are watching TV then most likely you are not
doing anything to move one step closer to your goal. The problem with TV
these days is that it is captivating. There are programs for all interests and
hobbies and the shows keep getting better and better. Those who watch alot
of TV usually don’t reach their goals and perhaps people watch TV because
they don’t have any goals.
Quick Fix: Shut off the TV. Cancel the cable. Pick up a book that will help you
move one step closer to your goal
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Top 100 Most Inspirational Quotes

A wise man does not try to hurry history. Many wars have been avoided by patience, and many have been precipitated by reckless haste.

1. Life isn’t about getting and having, it’s about giving and being. –Kevin Kruse
2. Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve. –Napoleon Hill
3. Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value. –Albert Einstein
4. Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.  –Robert Frost
5. I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took any excuse. –Florence Nightingale
6. You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take. –Wayne Gretzky
7. I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. –Michael Jordan
8. The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. –Amelia Earhart
9. Every strike brings me closer to the next home run. –Babe Ruth
10. Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement. –W. Clement Stone
11. We must balance conspicuous consumption with conscious capitalism. –Kevin Kruse
12. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. –John Lennon
13. We become what we think about. –Earl Nightingale
14.Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain
15.Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. –Charles Swindoll
16. The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. –Alice Walker
17. The mind is everything. What you think you become.  –Buddha
18. The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now. –Chinese Proverb
19. An unexamined life is not worth living. –Socrates
20. Eighty percent of success is showing up. –Woody Allen
21. Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. –Steve Jobs
22. Winning isn’t everything, but wanting to win is. –Vince Lombardi
23. I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. –Stephen Covey
24. Every child is an artist.  The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up. –Pablo Picasso
25. You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. –Christopher Columbus
26. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. –Maya Angelou
27. Either you run the day, or the day runs you. –Jim Rohn
28. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. –Henry Ford
29. The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. –Mark Twain
30. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.  Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

31. The best revenge is massive success. –Frank Sinatra
32. People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing.  That’s why we recommend it daily. –Zig Ziglar

33. Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. –Anais Nin
34. If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced. –Vincent Van Gogh
35. There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. –Aristotle
36. Ask and it will be given to you; search, and you will find; knock and the door will be opened for you. –Jesus
37. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. –Ralph Waldo Emerson
38. Go confidently in the direction of your dreams.  Live the life you have imagined. –Henry David Thoreau
39. When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say, I used everything you gave me. –Erma Bombeck
40. Few things can help an individual more than to place responsibility on him, and to let him know that you trust him.  –Booker T. Washington
41. Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture the heart. – Ancient Indian Proverb
42. Believe you can and you’re halfway there. –Theodore Roosevelt
43. Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear. –George Addair
44. We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. –Plato
45. Teach thy tongue to say, “I do not know,” and thous shalt progress. –Maimonides
46. Start where you are. Use what you have.  Do what you can. –Arthur Ashe
47. When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life.  When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up.  I wrote down ‘happy’.  They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life. –John Lennon
48. Fall seven times and stand up eight. –Japanese Proverb
49. When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us. –Helen Keller
50. Everything has beauty, but not everyone can see. –Confucius
51. How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world. –Anne Frank
52. When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. –Lao Tzu
53. Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. –Maya Angelou
54. Happiness is not something readymade.  It comes from your own actions. –Dalai Lama
55. If you’re offered a seat on a rocket ship, don’t ask what seat! Just get on. –Sheryl Sandberg
56. First, have a definite, clear practical ideal; a goal, an objective. Second, have the necessary means to achieve your ends; wisdom, money, materials, and methods. Third, adjust all your means to that end. –Aristotle
57. If the wind will not serve, take to the oars. –Latin Proverb
58. You can’t fall if you don’t climb.  But there’s no joy in living your whole life on the ground. –Unknown
59. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained. –Marie Curie
60. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. –Les Brown
61. Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful. –Joshua J. Marine
62. If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else. –Booker T. Washington
63. I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do. –Leonardo da Vinci
64. Limitations live only in our minds.  But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. –Jamie Paolinetti
65. You take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing, no one to blame. –Erica Jong
66. What’s money? A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do. –Bob Dylan
67. I didn’t fail the test. I just found 100 ways to do it wrong. –Benjamin Franklin
68. In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure. –Bill Cosby
69. A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new. – Albert Einstein
70. The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person who is doing it. –Chinese Proverb
71. There are no traffic jams along the extra mile. –Roger Staubach
72. It is never too late to be what you might have been. –George Eliot
73. You become what you believe. –Oprah Winfrey
74. I would rather die of passion than of boredom. –Vincent van Gogh
75. A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. –Unknown
76. It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.  –Ann Landers
77. If you want your children to turn out well, spend twice as much time with them, and half as much money. –Abigail Van Buren
78. Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs. –Farrah Gray
79. The battles that count aren’t the ones for gold medals. The struggles within yourself–the invisible battles inside all of us–that’s where it’s at. –Jesse Owens
80. Education costs money.  But then so does ignorance. –Sir Claus Moser
81. I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear. –Rosa Parks
82. It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. –Confucius
83. If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more. If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough. –Oprah Winfrey
84. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. –Dalai Lama
85. You can’t use up creativity.  The more you use, the more you have. –Maya Angelou
86. Dream big and dare to fail. –Norman Vaughan
87. Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. –Martin Luther King Jr.
88. Do what you can, where you are, with what you have. –Teddy Roosevelt
89. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. –Tony Robbins
90. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning. –Gloria Steinem
91. It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live. –Mae Jemison
92. You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try. –Beverly Sills
93. Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. –Eleanor Roosevelt
94. Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be. –Grandma Moses
95. The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. –Ayn Rand
96. When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it. –Henry Ford
97. It’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years. –Abraham Lincoln
98. Change your thoughts and you change your world. –Norman Vincent Peale
99. Either write something worth reading or do something worth writing. –Benjamin Franklin
100. Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, “I’m possible!” –Audrey Hepburn
101. The only way to do great work is to love what you do. –Steve Jobs
102. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. –Zig Ziglar

Inspirational Powerful Quotes That will change your Life

1. “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”  ~ Neale Donald Walsch

2. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

3. “As you start to walk out on the way, the way appears.” ~ Rumi

4.”Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey

5. “If you are living out of a sense of obligation you are a slave.” ~ Dr Wayne Dyer

6. “The quieter you become, the more you can hear.” ~ Ram Dass

7. “It is important to expect nothing, to take every experience, including the negative ones, as merely steps on the path, and to proceed.” ~ Ram Dass

8. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” ~ Cicero

9. “If you are not taking responsibility for your state of consciousness, you are not taking responsibility for life.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

10. “If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.” ~ Lao Tzu

11.“There is no man living that can not do more than he thinks he can.” ~ Henry Ford

12. “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

13. “Happiness depends upon ourselves.” ~ Aristotle

14. “Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier”. ~Mother Teresa

15.”Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” ~ Helen Keller

16. “Learn from Yesterday, live for Today, hope for Tomorrow.” ~ Albert Einstein

17.“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.” ~ Wayne Dyer

18.“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” ~ Maya Angelou

19. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

20. “One day, you’re 17 and you’re planning for someday. And then quietly, without you ever really noticing, someday is today. And then someday is yesterday. And this is your life. ~ John Green

21.”Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~ Soren Kierkegaard

22. “Only the truth of who you are, if realized, will set you free.” ~ Eckhart Tolle

23. “If you end up with a boring miserable life because you listened to your parents, your teacher, your priest, or some guy on television, then you deserve it.” ~ Frank Zappa

24. “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Theodore Seuss Giesel

25. “To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.” ~Anatole France

26. “Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

27. “There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.” ~ Steve Maraboli

28. “Always be a first-rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of someone else.” ~ Judy Garland

29. “Either you run the day or the day runs you” ~ Jim Rohn


Building A Better Relationships

At the base of every solid structure is a firm foundation.Any structure, group, organization, or relationship has to be built on a solid foundation in order to survive. It doesn't matter how much time you spend strengthening the 'above ground ' structure, if you fail to lay a solid foundation. One of my favorite Bible verses was written by King David:
Psalm 127:1 - Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who builds it.
Foundations are designed to withstand and transfer; weight, downward pressure, and stress from the structure. Foundations when designed and installed properly will transfer the destructive forces that can destroy structures into the surrounding soil and other areas than will reduce or eliminate the possibility of catastrophe. Proper foundations are the first step to building better relationships. Let's look at four additional ways to build better relationships.
Compassion, Caring, Consideration, Kindness...
Compassion can be described as caring to the point of empathy. Considering the feelings of those we are in relationships with to the point of feeling the things they face. Patiently enduring trying and difficult situations with those closest to you can take a toll on endurance if you fail to practice the art of compassion.
1 Corinthians 13... Love hopes, believes, endures all things; Love never fails
Caring and looking out for your own personal interests can strengthen a relationship or erode and diminish it to a heap of ashes if neglected. Caring is something that must be deliberately thought about and practiced; especially if everyone is busy and moving at a fast stressful pace. A simple kind thought, gesture or word can go along way to penetrate the dark places of loneliness, anger, and fear.
It's a challenge to be caring, considerate, kind to those you are around all of the time, especially when some are angry, mean spirited and down right hateful!
Consideration - in my opinion one of the best ways to define and characterize consideration for others:
Philippians 2:4 - Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.
Finally, but not least in importance Kindness. Kindness is not a synonym for enabling or excusing wrong behaviors, it is though synonymous for 'love in action. Kindness can be displayed in both great and small acts of genuine love, and concern for others; especially those you are in relationship with.
Again, a Scripture reference says it best:
John 15:33 - Greater Love has no man than this, that one lay down his life for his friends
Foundations, Compassion, Caring, Consideration, and Kindness. It's never too late to start, but if you wait too late, it may be too late to finish.


Tips For Dating And Relationships

                                   Powerful Long Lasting Tips On Relationships
Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago. Today, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes "commitment" seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The "spark" has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.
There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you headed in the right direction, we have chosen 5 ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship.
1. Start Over
When couples first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook the little annoying things the other person does. However, after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, "You look beautiful," they might hear "Why are you wearing that shirt?" If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you need to sit down and be honest that things have changed. Identify the things each of you did in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction in the first place.
Then together, make a commitment to start over. The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past, and then start over with the flirtation. Focus only on the special things your mate does and relearn to put the unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient
2. Schedule Time
Spending quality time together is crucial. This time can be with friends, dining out, attending a sporting event, or cuddling together while watching a favorite movie. The activity is not what is important but the fact that you are together, doing something that you both enjoy. People have extremely busy schedules and between work, family, the home, errands, and everything else going on, finding time for your mate can be difficult. Just as you would schedule a meeting on your calendar, show some courtesy in the relationship by scheduling time with each other. Once the plan is in place, no backing out unless you have some life and death emergency.
3. The Power of Touch
When a child is ill, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple, loving touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through a crisis. It is the same for relationships. Playing with your mate's hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on the neck, a soft pat on the leg or giving a gentle back rub will make a huge difference in how your mate responds to you.
When was the last time you walked up to your mate for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on their neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way. There is a difference. The next time the two of you are sitting in the car, at the grocery story, or standing in line at the theater, quietly reach over and take their hand. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first time!
4. Surprise
If you and your mate have scheduled some time for a Friday night dinner, put together a surprise instead. For example, if your mate loves professional wrestling, buy some tickets near the front or if they like concerts, purchase the tickets ahead of time, getting the best seats possible. When Friday night comes around, insist on driving and head toward the location where the event is taking place. When asked where you are going, simply answer, "I have a surprise for you. I know you love professional wrestling so I purchased two great seats for tonight's performance," or "I know we had planned on going to dinner, but I wanted to surprise you with something special. I purchased tickets to see one of your favorite groups in concert." The idea of you getting the tickets for something THEY like and then keeping it as a special surprise will touch the heart!
5. Needed Space
As important as it is to spend quality time together, it is equally important to give each other time to do something they like. If your mate loves to fish but you have no desire to bait a hook with little, slimy worms, or if you like to go to the casino but your mate would rather do something different, encourage each other to take time apart. Try establishing a set time for this very purpose, if possible. For example, perhaps you could determine that every other Friday night is "singles" night. This is not a time to date other people, but to enjoy preferred activities. Remember that you have to place trust in your relationship. If you try this and then drill them, to see what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then the exercise has failed.